METULHEDS LIKE YOU
People always see the big crowds, festivals, arenas and stage lights and think our life (the life of global musicians) is perfect. Far from it.
Also, I often had periods where I felt a certain melancholy. A lot of darkness, an inner weight pressing down on me.
Everyone has their dark time, everyone fights his/her own battle.
When I was younger, coping took all manners of forms, and very few of them were effective.
Dealing with depression is one of the hardest things you will face. My strategy is to keep it simple at first.
What works for me would be a long outdoor peaceful walk while breathing in some cool fresh air...
From experience I would say, that I have a couple of really good childhood friends who are always there for me....
Move on & don’t beat yourself up because shit happens... just the way it is!
"When the going gets though... the tough get going! "Sounds like buzzword or a set phrase but I really try to live by it.
For me it's fairly simple in the sense that I believe strongly you need to focus on (count) your blessings.
Never give up how dark it seems. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
I walk. In nature or by the ocean where I live.
If you had asked me 10 years ago about anxiety or depression, I would not have had a clue how to even answer you.
This is something that gives me the motivation to progress into the future...
The biggest piece of advice I can give anyone who is dealing with a difficult time is to learn to LET GO.
The key coping strategies that I try to employ everyday are kindness and forgiveness_for yourself as well as others.
It was the best thing I did for myself and my family.
When things get a little overwhelming for me I like to slow everything down. First thing I do is get off social media.
I stay in motion physically, mentally, and creatively.
I learned that the best way for me is to accept the struggle. I'm not gonna fight or deny it.
When I was young Heavy Metal lifted my spirts. Since then, making more Metal has been my life's work.
I take a step back and remember that everything happens for a reason.
I try to adapt to the situation and build a positive thinking strategy.
Not even music could save me, I was empty and without inspiration.
As we get older being more flexible is so important to stay limber, healthy and strong.
So in my younger years I found music as a way out and my way to cope. Heavy Metal became a way of life.
My biggest method has been spending as much time as I can in nature.
For me music is my therapy. When I get sucked into that dark place...
How Blessed I am and how lucky I am for the many gifts in my life.
There are many strategies. First off, therapy can work...
"God is clearing a path for you. Stay on the path." I will never forget those words.
I drink a lot of water, eat fruit and veggies and either jog, swim or go for a very brisk walk to break a sweat.
...which always lifted some of the negativity from my shoulders.
Is there something deeper that might be making me feel the way that I’m feeling?
In my early teens I felt like an outcast and there was no one telling me otherwise.
Whenever I am going through a very difficult time the first thing I do is stop and take a deep breath.
I think one that has always been a go to is getting into my car for a long drive at night...
I would like to say how important it is that mental health be taken seriously.
There are few mechanisms and ways that help me in those hardest moments...
I also find going for a walk on the seafront really helps - taking the dog out kind of forces me to do that!
I was turned onto jumping rope and proper nutrition from a dear friend that I met on the road...
There is a old saying. It’s darkest before the dawn. A very accurate statement of how life rolls.
When things get absolute dark and they sometimes do, I change my everyday routine.
I try to stay in shape physically by training, and mentally by writing and playing music.
...but I learned how to minimize its affect on my body and my mental health.
I really just try to occupy my thoughts with the most positive things in my life.
I guess it really comes down to that you just have to keep going no matter what.
When life becomes a challenge or hard, I look to gratitude as my cure.
When things suck, I work out. I may not be able to control the world around me but I can control the world within me.
Coping with problems and staying mentally healthy can be a very difficult thing. To tell the mind to stop worrying is incredibly hard.
"I just want to feel normal" are the words I use to tell myself and my family when I would have an anxiety attack.
When this pandemic hit us, the inability to play live music, travel or even see friends took me to a very dark and empty place.
I think the most important one may be talking to a friend.
When I get to play drums. Live, rehearsal, alone, studio etc. The music never disappoints me!
Taking the time to notice when I am feeling my most anxious and slowing myself down have been the tools in my belt...
Getting some exercise lifts my spirits...
My coping mechanism when things get dark, and all humans have hard times, is to do something simple and physical.
Living in this modern world should be easy but it is not. The more we have, the more anxious we become.
Sometimes being "in control" can be an illusion that promises freedom but actually keeps us from moving forward in life.
You cannot deal with your own internal pressures by yourself.
For me art is my escapism rather than substances of any kind.
It was hard to convince myself that I needed help, but I finally decided to get help from a therapist...
You just have to be patient and let the time pass.
But also things like humour... nothing like a good laugh to get you out of the shadows... humour can give breathing space...
Therapy can be a good thing, and can help you cope with anxiety and depression.
When I'm feeling bad, I listen to or play music...
I cope with stress, normal daily occurrence... by realizing, and reminding myself, stress is fake, it does not exist...
Throughout the pandemic I made a solo record...
The darkness follows me and when my guard is down it will try to overwhelm me.
Talk to God about it. Then talk to a friend about it and ask them to pray.
There's nothing as rewarding as petting dogs. Best psychiatrists ever.
I try and spend some time away from the computer.
Didn't know anything about the business and 40 years further things still surprise me.
My "go to" method has always been work.
I’m lucky that I can stand back, breath and be objective.
I deal with stress by making sure to be around or immersed in nature.
"Everything is temporary ". I say this to myself when I am going through a rough patch and it helps me with perspective.
Just move forward everyday...
Being active to me is THE answer to the moments in which darkness attacks us!
When I started learning about mantras, I thought it might be cool to have one for when I’m feeling anxiety.
It’s not a quick fix, but works every time if I’m willing to wait for it!
We can’t control life, but we can control our choices.
I have ALWAYS surrounded myself with positive like-minded people.
I try always to stay positive but, particularly in the last two years that’s been hard at times.
“Resilience” I guess is the keyword and the belief that what you do is worth the effort...
There’s always something to learn from it, and an opportunity to grow from this situation.